So I’m reading the Alerts section of certain discussion boards tonight, and I am overcome with amazement. Ladies having to use tasers and guys getting spooked by other men sitting in cars in a 2-star hotel parking lot. It’s mind boggling how often some people come in close quarters with pimps, both recruiting and robbing. If I were a man, and the hobby was that dangerous for me, I’d be faithful or get a girlfriend. You would think that he would look around, and see what it would take to avoid these types of situations. There are choices, you know. But when you’re in a box, all the walls look the same. There is apparently no way out, so these gents do the same thing over and over. But when he meets a drama-free lady who screens, he figures he can’t give too much identifying information to a hooker because of her pimp, no matter how ‘high class’ she is. So he’s back to the 19-year-olds, 2-star motels, and getting the ‘bad feelings’ about the black guy in the parking lot on 22’s.
I’m really concerned about the ladies just jumping in the industry or at least just starting to use the internet as a medium for business. They post these alerts thinking that everyone works the same way. To them their situation was unavoidable. What else is there to do when a guy she has nothing on but a Tracfone number that called her 30 minutes ago robs her, or alerts the hotel manager of her advertisement? When you ask them did they screen, they throw up verbal middle fingers, or stop posting altogether to avoid the questions. What I want them to know is that when life offers you a chance to learn from your mistakes, take it. The criticism only lasts for a little while, but some things are permanent. Like death, scars and negative background checks.
They always tend to jump on the lady about her not screening when she has a bad time, and chase her away from making alerts. And it doesn’t help that they may not be the most articulate people. But I think that, especially as women we should try to introduce ladies to screening sources that would help them be more safe. You don’t need to do a background check in order to screen well.
But when the guy thinks with the little head instead of the one on his shoulders (sometimes you have to make that distinction), he just bit off a ‘bad apple’. His alerts are filled with apologies and sympathetic pats on the back for attempting to give money to the seedy, drug-addicted hooker and her pimp. He’s just ‘too trusting’. No one reams him out for trying to visit with an unreviewed lady or one who doesn’t screen on short notice. Of all the verified, trustworthy, beautiful women a guy could choose from, he takes a risk on getting robbed, beaten, or not getting what he paid for.
And we’re not going to make this about where a lady decides to advertise, but HOW she advertises. I have never had to make an alert in my entire time as a companion, and have only had great experiences. And it’s all in the way that I handle myself. But not all the fellas are looking for a well put-together woman. Some seek out the desperate. I tell you, the bargain hunter thrill seeker exploitative nature of some men does not help the cycle of negativity that surrounds the adult industry. But neither do the ladies. But something has to have the ability to stop the merry-go-round.