That’s like asking how to end world hunger.
You’ve got two types of people on each side of the table. On the women’s side, the majority of escorts are not in this for the right reason. They were either forced by economic situations, or coerced by some pimp. About 40% or more of escorts today are 18 to 25, new to the business, and had unrealistic expectations going in. They’re supposed to just be pretty and the guys will come. Never you mind she hasn’t thought about she will wrap her mind around dealing with her clientele.
On the men’s side, the majority are not seeking out escorts for the right reasons or the right premise. He is out to intentionally make a lady feel bad for making the decisions she’s made. He seeks out the desperate, seeing only ladies who have lowered their prices to the lowest imaginable without regard for how this affects her performance. Then he brags about how low-rent her incall area was, how she was ‘not into it’, or how he thinks he saw her next client pass him in the hallway. His excuse is that he didn’t tell her to sell herself so cheaply. If she doesn’t like her job she should find another one.
Then you have the minority on both sides. You have a very small percentage of ladies who put thought into their business. They seek to work smarter and not harder, and even to enjoy themselves. Her client is also a minority, the man who puts thought into meeting a companion. Yes, he’s looking for physical attractiveness, but he’s also looking for signs that he will have a good time, and that her attitude is consistent. He is not drawn to the dramatic at all. Matter of fact he’s avoiding it.
The problem with men who always seem to be having bad experiences with escorts, especially when he obviously has good choices at every price point, is that they’re not looking for balanced providers. We don’t negotiate our rates or our time. We require screening. We won’t see him if he’s an obvious woman hater. So it’s off to sifting through the bottom feeders, weeding out who actually does what they say they do, or doesn’t rip them off.
I’m not saying that ladies aren’t allowed to have a bad day. We’ve all had at least ten and there’s more on the horizon. I’m saying that we do whatever we can to make sure that we have the best possible time with our clients. If that means rescheduling, cancelling, or using the encounter itself to take our mind off our outside influences, so be it.
A brilliant lady recently said that an encounter with an escort is supposed to be a luxury. And it’s supposed to be, on both ends. Our time together should be compared to the Prom. It’s a splurge. You worked all year long mowing lawns, babysitting, washing cars, or whatever to get prepared for the expenses. After all that, you don’t buy a second-hand suit for the prom. You don’t ask a girl you don’t like to the dance. You get the tux, the limo rental, the tickets, and the hotel room for the after party. You want to make sure it’s a once in a lifetime experience.
For us, it’s the same thing. We’re not MEANT to accept every invitation we get to the prom. Mind you, he doesn’t have to be a team captain for us to say yes, but he has to be thoughtful. He should value you enough to care how he asks, and when he asks. Asking you two days before the prom is a sign that either he was desperate, or he thought you were. Desperation should never be a factor in making a decision on who takes you to the prom. If it gets that bad, go with a group of friends. Guys don’t take this as a ‘you should spend the most money you can’ speech. It’s more about the thought and time it takes to make sure you get what you want out of an experience.
There will never be an end to YMMV because people are YMMV. For every type of client there is the perfect companion for him. It’s just a matter of meeting at the right time.